“The first step in the process of developing great rapport and

3 min readDec 6, 2020

Like a lot of people who end up being great at their job, Robin Dreeke became obsessed with learning how to better connect with people because initially, he wasn’t very good at it.Think back to the last time a stranger started a conversation with you. If you’re anything like me, you probably felt uncomfortable. This isn’t a coincidence. As a survival mechanism, we’re hard-wired to gauge if the people around us are a threat or not.The time saved alone when using this tool will have me using this approach in the future. I surely will not miss the effort involved in making manual tweaks to the diagram, carefully aligning the components, and arrows with every iteration of my architecture.
The image that is produced can be seen below, and you can now see a logical flow between each node in the diagram. This flow can be reversed by changing the order in which you define the nodes. In addition to tweaking the flow you can change a number of things as an edge object contains three attributes: label, color and style. We will not cover how to teak these here. If you are interested in learning more the documentation is linked at the end of this article, and these attributes mirror corresponding graphviz edge attributes which makes things easier if you have leveraged that tool in the past.
As his career advanced, this drive served him well. Prior to starting his own executive coaching business, People Formula, Robin led the FBI’s Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program. https://schev.edu/jvw/b-v-b02.html

Multitasking slows down our ability to process creativity. Listening to music while trying to come up with characters, flows, and obscure connections, has our brains jumping to do too many things at once.
J.K. Rowling, the famous author behind the Harry Potter series, finds music “too distracting” while writing. When younger, she used to listen to Tchaikovksy when writing the first book.
“One of the things I do when I am starting a movie, when I’m writing a movie or when I have an idea for a film; is, I go through my record collection and just start playing songs, trying to find the personality of the movie, find the spirit of the movie. Then ‘boom’, eventually I’ll hit one, two or three songs or one song in particular, oh this will be a great opening credit song.” — Quentin Tarantino

One of the first tasks Quentin does before ever sitting down to write a single word in a new script is finding the exact piece of music that fits what he wants the movie to be about.

“Tasks that involve language processing or decision making need your attentional focus, and when you try to do two such tasks at the same time, you end up switching your attention back and forth.”

Now you have cut your teeth on building a beautiful diagram with code there’s a lot of potential with leveraging this workflow when it comes to automation possibilities, and time saved with general maintenance of an architecture diagram.The time saved alone when using this tool will have me using this approach in the future. I surely will not miss the effort involved in making manual tweaks to the diagram, carefully aligning the components, and arrows with every iteration of my architecture.When it comes to creating connections with people and building trust, Robin’s learnings run deep. But after reaching out to let him know how much I enjoyed his tips in his book, “It’s Not All About Me“: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone,” he was kind enough to give me the green light to share some of his techniques along with some of the ways in which I’ve gotten them to work for me.

“The first step in the process of developing great rapport and

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